10 Ways to Pull Off Your Perfect Wedding Day (with an Example from a Real Wedding at Magnolia Manor, Brazos Springs, Angleton, TX)
Everyone wants their wedding day to be perfect. No hitches. No hiccups. No problems of any kind. Well, I'm sorry to tell you, but that's probably not going to happen. However, you can take measures to make sure that your wedding day issues are nothing more than a hang nail. Here's a few tips on how to pull it off:
- Use your colors everywhere. Just because it's a wedding, it doesn't mean you have to stick with using just white or black. Mix it up a little! Use those two or three colors you picked out everywhere from invitations to tablecloths at the reception. Make the wedding your own.
- Pick a theme and go with it. Pick a color scheme, a feel, or style you like and ride that wave, baby! Like boho? Let the flowy dresses a organic greens roll. Want a black tie affair? Then shine those shoes and make sure those bow ties are straight. Keep the same feel and your wedding will knock it out of the park!
- Create a mood board. Pick 9 photos you like and want to emulate on your wedding day. This can be a collection of your color palette, a pattern, table design, floral arrangement, or whatever you like. Keep that grid of photos on your phone where you can always see it. This will keep you focused when you have to make all of those minuet decisions. It's so easy to get distracted when you see something fun and different and you want add it to your "must have" list. If it matches the theme of your mood board, great! Do it. If it doesn't, then toss it.
- Make it personal. I'm not saying you have to put your name or monogram on everything, but you do want your guests to see certain elements of your wedding and say "Oh that is so them!" Make it a cake with your alma mater on it or include a locket you got from your grandmother on your bouquet. Make the wedding about YOU.
- Ask your vendors for tips. How early should the guys get there before the ceremony? How will a certain color up-lighting change the mood of your reception? We've done this wedding thing before. A lot. We've conducting weddings in every possible circumstance. So with all that wealth of knowledge, you'll want to take advantage of it! When you meet with your vendors, ask them for what you can do to ensure your wedding day is going to run as smoothly as possible. I guarantee every one of them will have a different answer - but that's the point. Whether you agree with what they or not isn't the point. The point is that it gets you thinking about things you otherwise might not have. It's easier to make decisions before the wedding day than on the day of.
- Allow more time than you think you'll need for photos. You didn't think I could make this list without making things a little bit easier for me, did you? If you have a big family or a an extended list of "must have"photos, you'll want more time. You never know how things are going to pan out on the wedding day and it's always better to allow yourself more time than you might need. Timelines can easily pushed up but not as easily pushed back.
- Have one unique element. Your wedding is going to be lovely and elegant and everything you've ever wanted it to be, but have one element that's over the top awesome and that will leave guests talking about it at family get togethers and Christmas parties for years! Whether it's bringing in Whataburger taquitos after last call, edible flowers frozen into every ice cube, or a choreographed first dance that would make even Patrick Swayze blush, do it up big! But don't feel pressured to make it ALL over the top!
- Walk through the wedding day in your mind. If you don't have a planner, this is going to be crucial. I've been to so many weddings where I was the person keeping things moving throughout the day because small details weren't in place. (the most commonly forgot thing is having a plate and fork ready for the bride and groom when they cut their cake)
- Double check. Triple check. Quadruple check. Ask your friends who have gotten married to look over your list of "to do's" and see if you've missed anything.
- Relax. Seriously. Take a chill pill. I have been to a few weddings where the couple was so stressed out that they were absolutely miserable on their wedding day. They were trying to make sure that every little things was perfect and you know what? It's not going to be perfect. Just do your best and let the rest go. At the end of the day, as long as you, your future spouse, and the officiant are there, then you're all set to get married. And that's the main point - MARRIAGE. Not the wedding; the MARRIAGE.